Sunday, July 19, 2015

5 Ways to Re-Spark Creativity from a Couple Busy Parents

Cartoon by @joseph_melancon 


Sometimes being a parent is crazy inspiring. Your kid develops new skills that ever impress you. He's generally cooperative. You find yourself overwhelmed by just how sweet the snuggles are.

Other times, you find yourself drained, at the end of your rope, relishing the 4.5 seconds you have to go to the bathroom with the door closed because you can pretend to be alone despite the little hands under the door.

The last couple weeks have sort of been like the latter for this Mama & Papa Bear. Little man got sick, which started the domino effect of us getting sick, too. It wasn't the kind of summer vacation we were hoping for, but we did take a minute to count the blessings of being stuck at home and in this together.

STILL, sick kids  and being sick is no fun, and it started this trend of just getting by for a couple of weeks. So when our anticipated July 4th 3-day weekend came, and we were in good health, we were so excited for three days to create and regroup.

Only what happened instead was we realized how out of the groove we were, how uninspired we were. It was that dreaded creative lull, and it got us  pretty whiny.

Luckily, we've managed to climb our way out of this particular valley for the meantime. This wasn't our first experience with a creative drought and it definitely won't be our last.

THAT got us talking with each other about the different things we do to inspire ourselves and reignite our creative flames, and so we thought we'd share just a couple of those.

1. Indulge

You know sometimes when you're body just tells you it's done for the day at 7 p.m. seemingly out of nowhere? Our bodies are good at telling us what they need, and sometimes you just have to give in to a bedtime that doesn't make much sense. The same is true to an extent with creativity. Now there is a fine line here between letting yourself waste all the time you have by watching Netflix, browsing Pinterest and home good stores (Holli) and watching too much YouTube (Joseph) and letting yourself take a needed break. But, sometimes we find that just letting ourselves do whatever we want snaps us out of our funks pretty quickly.

2. Get out of our heads

A creative lull is often caused by either having so many ideas we don't know what to do, so few ideas that we think we're destined to fail or thinking about something so much we have trouble acting on it. The project's too big and daunting or we've built it up too much or something dramatic. All of it involves overthinking, and in these instances it's crucial to just stop the madness. That's when we TRY to get out of our heads by doing some of the more mindless things in life. Cleaning, running (well, not for Joseph who would certainly NOT be inspired by this task), just going to a new place...all these things take our minds off ourselves and sometimes just free our brains up to wander back to where we wanted them to go all along.

3. Get back to our roots

When the going gets tough, it's important to remember exactly WHY you are doing all this. It's not just meaningless; there was someone or something that made you think it was a good idea, and we definitely are the type of people who need reminders of this from time to time. For Joseph, it's reading comics and watching cartoons and for me, it's reading a good book, browsing awesome DIYs and recipes and watching TV shows or movies with compelling stories. Seeing others creating and doing these amazing things definitely pulls at our inner desires to do the same.

4. Work through it

This is the worst, am I right? But sometimes just biting the bullet and doing exactly what you need to be doing, no matter how much you hate it, ends up being the best thing. We both have our daily drawing/writing goals, respectively, and just sticking with those daily commitments is important to keeping the dream alive. Working through it  leads to actually accomplishing something, and that makes the painful (dramatic much?) days not so bad.

5. Remember how short life is

OK, this might sound silly, but as parents, there is nothing like our quickly growing offspring to make us realize how fast time goes. And in the moments where we'd much rather be indulging in some mindless activity rather than making things, it's helpful to just look at our child and remember that things are not slowing down anytime soon. Not wanting to live with regret and not having to tell our kid all the dreams we didn't accomplish are plenty reason to keep going when we'd rather not.


Monday, May 25, 2015

A Couple of Newbs Go House Hunting


Well, we have some news, and you've probably guessed it from the title of this post: We are shopping for our first home. 

The even bigger news is it turns out house hunting is exactly like the TV show. We get to look at three houses with cameras following us and then weigh the pros and cons over coffee. In our next post we'll announce which one is our dream home.

OK, really, though, we've looked at what feels like a million houses (though it's probably like 10-15) and all we've been talking about over coffee is how in the world that show actually works. Well, not ALL we've been talking about but you get it.

This whole process is really exciting but also a little overwhelming and terrifying. The picture above displays our feelings best. 

Since we don't actually have a house to announce or anything just yet, I thought I'd just sort of give an overview of what led us to this point and what we're hoping our final outcome will be (um, besides the obvious, a house).

Talking About Buying a House

We have been discussing buying a house on and off for a couple years now, but it hadn't felt like the right decision until now. Honestly, it's kind of a surprise even to us that now is (potentially) the right time because our conversations always ended with home buying being a much more long-term goal.

We've been in Columbus for about 3 years now, and in our specific 2-bedroom duplex for a year and a half. This house definitely isn't our favorite home we've ever lived in, but it's the perfect amount of space for us and we love a lot of things about it. However, it suddenly feels really small when we have people come visit, and the thing is we WANT people to visit. We want our parents, in particular, to feel like they can come stay comfortably because we want them to be a big part of Gabe's life.

So, several months ago I started looking for a three-bedroom to rent. I looked daily-obsessively-for four months to no avail. (Not that there aren't plenty of places to rent, but we didn't really want to add too much to our current payments. It just didn't feel like the right choice).

At that point, we just decided to let it go for a while. We rearranged our house and did some things to make it a little more roomy in here, and we do feel comfy and happy in our home for sure. Could we stay here longer and be happy? Of course. 

But somehow, in the last couple months, in all our on and off discussion of buying a house, staying in Columbus, raising little man here despite our family being elsewhere, something just clicked for us that maybe we should start exploring the option more seriously. We love this city, love our jobs, the friendships we have made. Doors have been opening for us in crazy ways since we've gotten here. 

And when we asked ourselves if we would be here at least 5-10 more years, we couldn't come up with any reason why not. (Of course, life can lead in all kinds of directions, and we are open to that, too).  I've always said we'd just leave when the doors stopped opening, and I think buying a house doesn't change that answer.

So We're Doing This?

We met with my dear friends at NeighborWorks Columbus and talked about our options before we went through the official pre-approval process. They gave us a little more confidence with that, so we went onto the lender and got all set up to go. 

We've looked at several houses with a realtor and do have at least one we are head-over-heels for but are being really cautious about choosing and about falling in love with a house too quickly or for the wrong reasons.

Anyway, I think I've rambled long enough. We are just taking it all one step at a time, and trying not to get overwhelmed by the 30-year mortgage commitment or the fact that we are NOT handymen in the slightest and just trust that we'll make the right decision for our family.

Clearly, we'll have more updates on this. In the meantime, here's Gabe being really cute.